Males and their Minds

In the book "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge there is a really good little snip it that i guess really hit home with me about how the guy wants to impress and or rescue the girl and have her fall in his arms. Every guy has had these dreams probably at about the age of twelve where they either beat up the school bully to save here or were there to comfort her when something was wrong. Here is a paragraph directly out of the text.

A Beauty to Rescue

Romeo has his Juliet, King Arthur fights for Guinevere, Robin rescues Maid Marian, I will never forget the first time I kissed my elementary school sweetheart. It was in the fall of my seventh-grade year. I met Debbie in drama class, and fell absolutely head over heels. It was classic puppy love: I would wait after rehearsals were over, carry her books back to her locker. We passed notes in class, talked on the phone at night. I never paid girls much attention, really, until now. This desire awakens a bit later in a boy's journey to manhood, but when it does his universe turns on its head. Anyway, I longed to kiss her, but just couldn't ever work up the courage- until the last night of the school play. The next day was summer vacation and she was going away, and I new it was now or never. Backstage, in the dark, i slipped her a quick kiss and she returned a longer one. Do you remember the ending to the movie E.T., where the boy flies across the moon on his bike? Though I rode my little Schwinn home that night, I felt like I was never on the ground. (end paragraph and back to blogging schpiel)

See girls don't realize how much power they have over us, or the stereotypes of males where all we ever think about is sex and how to get it, but it has actually been proven that that females between the age of 16 and 24 think more about sex then males do. I am not saying that we don't think about that, i can't even remember the percentage i think it was like for ever 1 time a guy has thought about sex a girl has already thought about it 3 times, but that could be wrong maybe it was only twice or could have been a number greater then four. But what I guess i am trying to say is that when a girl whether it be the first one or the tenth, when the first physical connection is made or even a great emotional connection the male goes into shock not knowing what to think. For some guys with commitment issues, this is when they get scared and run, but what about the guys who stick with you going into this blindly. Love is like a train going through a tunnel, either you go right through it with no problems or there is the chance of another train coming from the other direction you can't see.

To all of us guys who are amazed by a girl and can't ever get her out of your head, just go for it what is the worst that can happen. I mean we have probably already lost our dignity so we currently have nothing to lose.

For all you girls who think we think are trying to get anyone that is easy that isn't necessarily what we go for or look for in a girl but there are some exceptions to this, I am just glad I don't fit into that category of sleezy guys just looking to get laid. But on a more happy not then that one, we are just as scared of relationships as you are. We are still afraid of being hurt. Even if it were a simple thing, we sometimes having the confidence to doing things on a whim dealing with love because half the time we don't know what we are doing.